How could you?!?!?!?

I was talking to a good friend the other day, catching up on the years that each of us had missed and in the conversation we talked about the things that failed in our lives, mistakes, sins and their consequences. And as my friend began to express her frustration towards the Lord it reminded me of the same battle i had within myself the month prior.
Rewind to the month before this conversation. Within myself was a battle, a showdown if you will, with the Lord over my life. I came with anger and fire! I was angry with the way my life ended up and angry that the Lord, the one who's suppose to love me, who prays to the father on my behalf, and wants the best for me would allow my life to crumble the way it had. after this lengthy battle, and shared words of my own, I began to see things from a different perspective and its rocked my world!
The truth is we have one incredible God! We serve a God that allows us FREE choice, to do what we want...and who will still love us after we've messed up. This simple truth made me realize that we have NO right to place the blame of our failures and broken lives on the Lord. When we choose to walk in sin and disobey we are saying we take on full responsibility of the consequences. But when all is said and done and things begin to crumble beneath us we point our finger towards the Lord and say why did YOU do this?! how could YOU?! well my friends the saying goes, "if you point a finger at someone there's always three pointing back at yourself!" there is no one to blame but ourselves.
God doesn't tempt! and he sure as heck doesn't ruin our lives. Jesus will always fight for our hearts before WE choose to walk in sin, but it doesn't end there, he tugs at our hearts constantly until we're free....because he loves us! He'll never force us to love him or to choose obedience. Who would choose a God that forced you to love him? Even when we choose disobedience he still loves us and still fights for us.
So instead of blaming God while dealing with the consequences of OUR sin, OUR wrong choices, PRAISE him! Praise him for allowing us free choice and praise him for bringing you out of your self destruction. If neither life nor death can separate us from the love of Christ than a bad choice can't either!